terflies:

acoupleofradfems:

To all the girls who identify as nonbinary: I’m genuinely sorry for what society did to you and every other girl on this planet, I’m sorry it made you hate being female so much you deny being female at all. This goes especially for the nonbinary lesbians out there; Lesbophobia is still alive and well and I’m sorry you’ve become proof of how it affects young women. I wish tumblr wouldn’t encourage you to give up on your womanhood. You can be as gender non comforming as you are and still be a woman, and I hope some day you can see that again.

• You say you are “sorry”, feigning concern for nonbinary “girls” but demonstrating none.
  
• Dictating their thoughts and motives—“you hate…”, “you deny…”, “give up on your womanhood”—is gaslighting.
  
• “Giving up on their womanhood” is a fundamental misunderstanding; you cannot give up on what you do not have.
• And, of course, supporting people’s exploration of their gender and assertion of their honest self is absolutely not “encouraging them to give up on their womanhood”.
• Whether someone is cis or trans is and whether they are gender-(non)conforming are two distinct things.