hey ik we’re rejecting “softboys” this year but can we not throw trans boys and gay men under the bus while we do that because expressing femininity and desiring to be soft and in touch with your emotions isnt a bad fucking thing
like i feel as if a lot of you have forgotten what kind of softboy is the one we’re trying to avoid. guys who put on a persona of being cute and approachable and then using their position to take advantage of women and others on social media, in the workplace, etc and its really weird that you all are reducing it to just… boys who like pastels and wearing flower crowns and shit and its weird
the message of “don’t trust self-described nice/trustworthy guys” honestly got run through a radfem machine & spat out as “men only use femininity to lie to/manipulate (cis) women” and, at its worst, it comes w the air of “and you’re stupid for believing them.” like remember how ppl were jumping to say they ‘knew it’ when the news came out abt n1ck r0binson? as if the ppl who enjoyed his content were somehow blind for trusting him?
