queenkeyland:

brittanymichael:

echolessvoid:

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

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“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post.
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REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW
AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD.
So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

EVERYONE BOOT THE FUCK OUT OF THIS

isn’t it sad that we have to teach women how to avoid rape instead of telling rapists not to fucking rape people

Nonono please please don’t listen to that post. I’ve seen it a few times without the explanation of how much it’s full of bad advice  so have a rape survivor saying how false it is and another article here and even more and more proof so please stop spreading false information!

askthesasscestors:

I actually have a friend that absolutely hates Gamzee and everything he stands for. That’s fine, I respect peoples’ opinions. She says that he kills for religion and, though I’m not excusing his actions in the least, there’s a bit more to it than that.

Let’s start off when Gamzee was younger. We all know that his lusus neglected him severely. Now, what if this was continuous instead of just when Gamzee was six sweeps? What I’m saying is, what if a practically newborn grub Gamzee was neglected, left all alone? And all his life pretty much. I know Alternians are a… Strong (?) people and could maybe hunt or kill others for food I guess, however they do that, but I doubt a very young troll would be able to. So this leads me to my next idea. The sopor slime. I don’t know about you guys, but if there was nothing left to eat and it was die of starvation or some weird slime.. And if I was /desperate/ enough to stay alive, I would probably try it.

Now, say the neglecting went on for months at a time. That’s enough to get someone completely addicted to the sopor and, if the addiction started early enough, by sweep six, Gamzee’s mind would probably be a puddly mess. But, being a highblood and being an Alternian in general, when he finally did have a few friends, he didn’t cling to them like you would think.

But his being neglected probably WAS the cause of all of this trouble. Gamzee clung to his RELIGION instead of Karkat, Tavros, any of his other friends. That means that, probably, his religion was the most important thing, the thing holding him together. Also, Gamzee was sober for a long time. There was shown to be no more pie tins laying scattered around BEFORE he contacted Karkat and told him what he was going to do. So, sober Gamzee does NOT equal a killer.

Now, emotionally crushed and religiously confused Gamzee is. After Dave showed him that ICP video, pretty much making fun of his religion, once again, possibly the only thing having held him together for all his lonely life, (keep in mind, Gamzee would have been just 13 at the time of all of this) he allowed Lil Cal to whisper to him. In his conversation with Karkat, he even admitted that the puppet was whispering to him.

Well, if someone promised you the world when you had pretty much NOTHING else to lose, since your flush-crush Tavros rejected you, your so-called best friend mostly seemed like he wanted nothing to do with you, and your only belief crumbling around you, I’m pretty sure you would give it consideration. And, seeing how the sopor wasn’t muddling his mind that was, by then, not as nice as the old Gamzee because he was the third highest canon blood caste, it was pretty much logical to him to murder those that had never liked him and those that had turned him down, turned him away, those that had seemingly stabbed him in the back and left him to rot.

I’m not saying that this is the whole truth, however. I’m being biased toward Gamzee in the writings above because I want to portray him as he portrayed himself. And, before you say he went on a rampage, he didn’t. He had enough of his mind left over to warn Karkat. That isn’t a rampage.

I want you to think. To Gamzee, who is the most violent troll? You may think Vriska or maybe Eridan. No. Gamzee may have known Vriska’s past as a very violent troll, but he admitted that she scared him. He would never go to her for anything. Eridan hadn’t shown his true colors by then and was probably, to Gamzee, someone all-talk and no action. The other trolls are very mild, to be honest. All but one.

Gamzee’s best friend, Karkat. For most of the time he knew his mutant friend, he was jacked up on sopor, which can definitely mess with your perception of things. Karkat, always screaming and yelling at people, always putting people down because of their flaws (though he was just a hella socially awkward teenager that never really meant anything he said) would seem like the go-to person if you wanted someone to stop you from doing crazy things. So he talked to Karkat, told him exactly what to do, and hoped deep down that he would be stopped.

Let’s think about this for a minute. Gamzee was neglected, turned down by his crush at least one time, and (possibly) would have had depression if he hadn’t had his substance addiction.

Who else fits the description, huh?

Dirk Strider. Before you flip out and say that Dirk is NOTHING like Gamzee, consider this: Dirk had depression. You get this by reading between the lines when he was turned Trickster. He was labeled as a ‘broken trickster,’ as he wasn’t carefree and happy like the other three. Depression is a mental disorder, something that cannot be cured easily, and even the trickster mode couldn’t make him happy. He was also turned down by his crush, Jake, arguably the most important person in his life. Even though he wasn’t traditionally neglected, he had never seen another human being in his entire life before entering the game.

On the other hand, Dirk coped because he did have good friends. He had Jake, he had Roxy, and he had Jane. Honesty, I love every one of the alphas for different reasons, but what do you think would have happened if he didn’t have those three? If he had friends that didn’t include him in anything, if Jake had turned him down from the get-go? What do you think Dirk would have done? How would he have reacted? Maybe he wouldn’t have gone down Murder Lane, but it wouldn’t have been good.

Gamzee did try. That was my point here. He tried even after he’d killed Nepeta and Equius. Gamzee and Terezi didn’t really show any extreme hate toward each other, so it was surprising to me when they went black. Well, if Gamzee was trying to annoy Karkat or get his attention, what would he do? Well, if you blamed someone for not stopping you from doing something hella stupid and couldn’t figure out how to get to them, you go for the crush. The one they care for most. Pretty much, he slept with Karkat’s almost-girlfriend.

Gamzee tried so hard on multiple occasions. That’s what I want the fandom to recognize. I want everyone to know that Gamzee isn’t just some stupid clown, killing because some measly puppet told him to without conscience. Andrew Hussie even stated in a Caliborn scene that Gamzee was one of the most important characters and had never died in any of the timelines. There has to be a logical reason for that other than ‘Clowns are fucking terrifying and they are hard as shit to kill.’