the worst thing about the whole “aromantic allosexual (read: heterosexual) men take advantage of women!!” idea is that it assumes that women are so helpless and lovesick, that they cannot consent to strictly sexual relationships, that apparently no woman has ever wanted just sex with no strings attached
It also erases aromatic gay men
Also… aromantic women exist, throwing even more of a wrench into their whole idea there.
The sexualizing of non-ace aros involved (including women no matter what ppl may claim) is also bizarre and nasty, as if non-ace aros only care about sex and nothing else (including the personhood of others) like. Isn’t that what the anti-ace/aro crowd claims aces here assume about non-aces, and use as justification to shit on aces+aros as a whole? But I forgot sex-shaming and sexualizing others is okay as long as it’s done by ppl who hate aces+aros
“how can you be intimate with someone if you’re aromantic??”
sharing secrets, trusting them with your life, telling them about that stupid thing you did when you were 14 and haven’t told anyone else since, being there for them any time day or night, talking til three in the morning, letting yourself cry around them, sharing grief, sharing joy, getting excited about the things they’re excited about just because you love to see them so happy about something
an aro positivity post 😭😭😭 that lists ways to be intimate with someone 😭😭😭 that doesn’t alienate the touch averse 😭😭😭 and people with no/low empathy 😭😭😭
Do not trust anyone who talks as though aces and aros inherently have privilege.
Do not trust them for a second
If you have stepped outside once within your life you’d know that aros/aces benefit from conservative movements promoting abstinence. Not to mention that aros/aces haven’t been so much as mentioned in the legislative world whereas sga people and trans people have put up with the AIDS crisis, stonewall, pulse, bathroom bills, anti-sodomy laws, etc.
omg one of them outright said it again
Aces and aros do not benefit from the promotion of abstinence by conservatives, are you god damn kidding me? Like I really want to see the explanation for that, it’s wild when ppl try to pull it with aces but I think this is the first time someone outright included aros in the bullshit. This is amazing.
And uh regarding the last part, you realize I said aces and aros, as groups, don’t “inherently” have privilege, right? That I talked about aces and aros in general? And that you’re doing it too? And that ace/aro does not mean cis+hetero?
But the first part of your response is so wild omg.
Aces and aros do not have privilege for being ace/aro holy shit this is absurd
I guess that kinda “conservative abstinence laws/education benefit aces/aros” comes from the “aces don’t have sex and aros don’t have feelings” attitude from 2009 memes that aphobes like to regurgitate every time they criticise “Ace Tumblr TM”
I’m pretty convinced at this point aphobes stick their fingers in their ears and scream lalalala loudly whenever aces and aros point out that their orientation is about who they’re attracted to, not whether or not they like sex or physical affection, which is why shit like this keeps popping up.
The one on the top is the most famous one, I believe
Aromantic: Lack of romantic attraction
-Mod Lucifer
im pretty sure the top one is the result of multiple changes on past designs (the middle one looking like another flag and the yellow clashing with the other colours i believe) so the top one is not only the most famous but also the most up-to-date
What’s better than romance? Cacti and starlight. And also tons of things actually. (I couldn’t decide on which aro flag to use so if one is more popular let me know)
Anonymous: What's the aromantic flag?
