Tumblr user @therealkyebarnfield has been bullying my friend for being autistic for three days now, constantly commenting on his posts with things like this:
This is a 24 year old man, bullying and stalking autistic teenagers.
I called him out on being a gross bully and ableist. He responded with this:
After this I noticed that he constantly complains about homophobia on his blog, so of course I called him out on being a hypocrite:
It’s important to mention that I’m a bisexual. Something that my blog clearly states in my bio, and I mentioned to him personally.
I called him a hypocritical gay because that’s exactly what he is. He complains about homophobia only to do exactly the same thing to autistic and disabled people. As a bisexual person, I despise seeing this kind of blatant hypocrisy and discrimination in the LGBT community, wich should be an accepting place for everyone.
But anyways, despite me being gay, he somehow accused me of being homophobic, and having used “homophobic slurs” wich makes no sense considering I constantly blog about gay rights:
You can already tell how hypocritical he is, since he bullied my friend for three days specifically for being autistic, calling him ableist slurs like “spaz”, “retard”, “autismo” and “sperg”.
But the hypocrisy and ableism gets worse.
I told him again that I’m gay, and asked why he hates autistic people so much. The response is one of the most ableist things I’ve seen on this site:
That’s right, he claimed that autistic people are violent abusers and school shooters. That’s why he goes around targeting autistic people to stalk on tumblr. This is the point where I realized that he’s not just a bully, but a deeply bigoted ableist.
I said I was gonna report him tomorrow:
And he’s still calling ME abusive, because I called him a hypocrite. He doesn’t think it’s abusive that he just called all autistic people school shooters, abusers and retards.
Then, for the next twenty minutes or so, he just kept calling me a “sperg” over and over again:
Bonus point for calling me a “mongoloid”, wich is both ableist and racist:
Then he just blocked me:
So yeah… jeesh!
This guy is a terrible, terrible ableist and bully. One of the worst I’ve encountered here, and that’s saying a lot.
Please report him to staff and hopefully they’ll do something for once. And share this around so people knows. This kind of behavior needs to be called out, it should not be welcome in the LGBT community, or anywhere for that matter.
Hey, just a little update that I didn’t mention in the original post. This guy also tried (and failed) to doxx me.
That link leads to a completely blank blog with a single post that says “Hey jimbo”
This is something people do to steal your IP address. They create a blank blog / website, hook it up to a spyware website, and then anyone who clicks on that link will have their IP address revealed. Literally never click on it if someone sends you a link during an argument.
And by the way, I don’t know what the “i reported you to the authorities” part is about, but I think it was a joke about me being a school shooter (wich he kept calling me).
Twenty minutes later he said he found out that I was a Norwegian guy named Sander and he would share that if I didn’t delete my blog. I’m not Norwegian and my name isn’t Sander.
He failed pretty spectacularly at doxxing me, but he sure tried. He has threatened others with the same thing. Again, please report this guy to the staff. This is literally illegal. Don’t approach him, just block and report.
remember when the same guy also commented on posts about charlottlesville, literally not even an hour after heather heyer was killed, and made the entire thing about me and my friend because he cares more about petty internet drama and complaining about bloggers 5 years younger than him than people getting murdered by neo nazis
Gotta love when neurotypicals write articles about how hard it is dating nd people.. Like I’m sorry if you don’t have a mental illness/neurodivergence/disability you shouldn’t be writing shit like this. It’s flat out disgusting. Imagine your partner writing about how hard it is loving you and how horrible the things you do are and then posting it for world to see. That’s honestly so inconsiderate and disturbing.
Anyway tag yourself, I’m “an explosion of emotion.”
Either I’ve read this or neurotypicals pull this so often that this popped up enough times for us to have each read different articles with the same BS.
Hey author, the one person you dated that had ADHD is not representative of the millions of us that exist.
Why not write an article called “my partner left me and now I’m super bitter about it”?
Or “I’m a literal bag of shit”?
Oh man, looks like you stepped on a mine in my personal minefield of emotion. I wonder why this person you’re writing about is no longer dating you.
In order for disabled people to receive any sort of financial assistant for their housing, food, bills, medical supplies, etc., they cannot ever have more than $2,000 of resources to their name. Ever.
It doesn’t matter what it’s for.
You’re saving up for a new wheelchair?
For college?
To put a downpayment on a house?
Hell man, you just happen to budget for once in your life so that you can have some extra money in case something bad happens?
Your benefits immediately get cut off if you’re a cent over $2,000.
And, even worse, you usually end up having to pay back every dollar the government gave you that month.
So say you get $400. If they find out you’re twenty dollars over the resource limit, you have to give them all $400 back and you undergo an investigation of your funds to see if you will continue getting money.
“What if I spend the money that day?”
Doesn’t matter. In fact, from what I can tell, people who do this are actually put under investigation for fraud.
People love to talk about whether or not disabled people can work
but if you can work just fine and your disability is destroying your ability to have a life outside of work (because work takes all your energy and more)
Dead silence. Nobody cares.
File this under, oh you can be active for 4 hours? You can work part-time. Um no, I have to get ready for work (30 min) get to work (15 min) get home from work (15 min) feed myself all day (30 min) maintain myself, my home and my life (15 min, yeah right), which leaves 15 min for work and absolutely nothing else.
This is so accurate, back after I’d relapsed I wanted to try and go in for one class at school so I could still stay in contact with the education system. I let slip during a meeting that I managed to drag myself to that I could manage about 4 hours of activity a week, which the teacher sprang on to mean I was being lazy for just trying to get to 1 hour class. Never matter that it was 30 minutes travel, that I would have to get washed and dressed, that I would probably still need to recover for 3 days from it.
Far too often abled people see the things they do easily as “non activities”, they don’t realise that for many disabled people these things have to be carefully planned and measured, and sometimes they simply can’t be done.
reblog bc the non activities thing seems really important words
I get X number of pain-free steps per day right now, which means that, for large conventions (like SDCC), I need to be in a mobility device. I had someone ask if I used up my steps every day before transferring to the scooter, and look surprised and a little horrified when I said “no, I save them so I can go to the bathroom unassisted.” Like, they had never considered that walking is involved in peeing.
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Reblogging for the important point that the term “activity” may mean something very different and much broader for a disabled person with a chronic pain or fatigue related condition compared to its meaning for a non disabled person. If you’re tired enough, simply sitting up in a chair rather than lying in bed is an activity that drains energy otherwise usable for other things. A thing I knew from other people with pain and fatigue related conditions, but worth reinforcing for followers who didnt know or had forgotten.
Anonymous: I see you still haven't answered my other ask. I am mentally ill and have a phobia of being pregnant. I would kill myself were I ever to become pregnant and could not get an abortion. Do you believe I should not have access to one?
I believe it’s disgusting and frightening that we live in a world and in a society where motherhood is seen as a burden and an abomination. I believe it should be unthinkable for a person, even the mentally ill, to feel that life is no longer worth living because they don’t have the right to kill their own child. It’s not a mental illness thing. It’s a societal thing.
No, I don’t believe you should be allowed to hire an assassin to kill your unborn baby. I believe you should have easy access to good mental help and I believe it’s downright infuriating that we, humanity, as a whole, have decided that it’s easier to just kill the baby than it is to fight for the mother’s and consequently the baby’s health.
I believe it is abhorrent that our minds have been contorted so severely that we are willing to stick coat hangers into ourselves to kill our children, because we are told what a terror and a curse children are.
I believe that it is astoundingly ironic, the fact that we call the abortion movement “women’s rights,” considering its very foundation is the blatant lie that we are not strong enough to be mothers and also be successful/healthy, and that we must pick one.
Abortion is misogyny in its purest form and nobody can convince me otherwise.
No, you should not be allowed to have an abortion because you are mentally ill. The thought of being pregnant should not be something the illness in you balks at, and a terrible injustice has been done to you if it does.
Unless you’re mentally ill I don’t believe you should voice your opinion on this topic. At all.
Now, as someone who’s mentally ill, let me explain to you something: pregnancy can be incredibly dangerous for us. And no, this isn’t a ‘society’ issue, this is a medical issue. A lot of medications can complicate pregnancies, causing both health problems to the pregnant person/fetus. Quite often you’d have to stop taking the medications entirely to carry on a healthy pregnancy. Unless you’re mentally ill you cannot even begin to fathom what damage that can do to them. That could cause them to relapse, which could escalate to an even more dangerous situation. When I was on my medication I was told, by a doctor, I absolutely could not be pregnant. Never. And again, I’ll stress that this wasn’t society telling me this, nor my beliefs, this was a medical professional telling me that yes, pregnancy would be a burden on me, a life threatening one. On top of my mental health, I have severe tokophobia, and to add the cherry on top, I’m asexual to begin with, so any chance of me being pregnant would be against my will. I dare you to tell me again that this is ‘misogyny’ and I shouldn’t be allowed an abortion.
I find it highly laughable that you call yourself pro-life while in the same breath claiming that the mentally ill shouldn’t be allowed an abortion, even if it meant saving their life.
Anonymous: I see you still haven't answered my other ask. I am mentally ill and have a phobia of being pregnant. I would kill myself were I ever to become pregnant and could not get an abortion. Do you believe I should not have access to one?