babylonsabby:

What’s the trans woman version of a ‘tucute’? If a tucute is a really overly effeminate, twinky, trans dude, is his opposite a trans woman who’s really masculine? Ya know, some women can’t help that shit, that’s fucked up. When you say, “I hate tucutes because they won’t fuckin’ transition,” what I hear is, “You can’t be both genders, pick a side.” What I hear is, “Intersex people aren’t valid.” What I hear is, “Nonbinary people aren’t valid.” I hear, “The only trans people who are valid are ones that look cis, or who are trying to pass as cis.” I hear, “Only CIS people are valid, I hate being trans.” There’s no pride in your transness at all. No pride in your otherness, only self-loathing. Only sadness. Mainly cause you didn’t get the body and life you should have. Hey! I get it! I’m a dysphoric trans dude and I’m right there with ya! But, man, it is what it is. We feel like this only because we were programmed to. Because we’re expected to be cis and we’re not. It sucks, but it doesn’t have to. We’re not the problem. Transphobes are. Anyways, that’s why I can’t get behind the transmed/truscum bandwagon as much as I’ve tried to be on yalls’ side since conversing with you. I’m way too feminist for this shit. I was feminist before the dysphoria and I’m feminist now. And this is ultimately a very feminist issue just like a lot of lgbtq related issues. If it weren’t for the rules set into place by a patriarchal system, we wouldn’t even need hormones! You could just walk out your house all twinked up, say you’re a man, and nobody would give a shit!!

9 months ago / 114 
#expanding on it being a feminist issue:  #you only ever see transphobic caricature of ''fake trans men'' and never of ''fake trans women''  #(at least on the transmed side)  #wich is prob because they see them as cis women and dont trust women to own their body and gender expression  #they have very patriarchal view of what is a ''real man''' (ie: someone who doesnt wear skirts show cleavage wear makeup or is ''soft'')  #and i suspect they dont ever question masculine transwomen because they recognize that as terf rethoric and dont want to perpetuate that  #(for good reasons)  #they dont believe someone could be a transman and be feminine because they know doing that would make them dysphoric  #wich implies that because someone doesnt experience life the way you do theyre a liar out to decieve people  #anyway transmeds arent gender abolitionists so......... 
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  1. we-polian said: in the time you took to write this, you could have done actual research and talked to people with opposing views
  2. defenestrate-yourself said: Dysphoria is a symptom that typically requires medical treatment to preserve quality of life and sometimes preserve life. Whether it makes us look bad or not, it’s a medical condition.
  3. defenestrate-yourself said: @babylonsabby I think the better question is, why is it a bad thing if trans people have a mental illness? You say in your post to blame transphobes for stigma, but then don’t blame them for the stigma here. There’s nothing wrong with mental illness, only the view it’s bad. Science points more to dysphoria having a neurological origin though, but it can be caused and aggravated by social factors.
  4. m1re1o said: @babylonsabby yeah thats the exact same reason I’m torn about it. despite the hopes tjat it would make getting hrt easier and cheaper, I still have my doubts about any of that actually happening. all I can imagine is all the cis transphobes basically going “we knew it!” in regards to us being mentally disturbed, which just isn’t true.
  5. babylonsabby said: @prince-dav1d That’s pretty much where I’m at. Doesn’t medicalizing dysphoria (for example, it’s in the DSM-5 as being previously known as ‘gender identity disorder’) about the same as saying all trans people are “mentally disturbed”? Like, we’re not crazy, we just don’t fit into the body and/or roles that we ended up stuck with. I see pros and cons of both sides, too, so I’m kinda in the middle as well.
  6. m1re1o said: @babylonsabby even when it was medicalized, from what I know it didn’t make getting hrt any easier?? and i see zero correlation between “”“transtrending”“” and the government refusing to give hormones. like, there’s literally no causation that I can see. it’s all just assbackwards reaching bc they all wanna be cis allies and write us all off as damaged and ill. I’m very torn about medicalizing it, I see good and bad, but we can’t shit on our trans siblings to do it.
  7. babylonsabby said: @prince-dav1d Seriously, though. Like, I don’t want dysphoria to be seen as a cosmetic issue in the United States, cause’ the US could give less of a fuck about trans people as it is, and they’ll use any excuse not to help us transition when we’re poor and can’t afford it. Can’t afford hormones? Too bad, too sad. At the same time, we can’t be bringing down our own people to get them. What the fuck is that gonna do, make the powers that be give us our meds any faster??
  8. m1re1o said: @babylonsabby literally have had ignorant ass truscum tell me I’m a just a crossdresser or a fujoshi without realizing I ACTUALLY HAVE BODY DYSPHORIA DUMBASSES. I’m just not a hot piece of garbage who dictates how other people’s feelings make them “trans enough” when we’re all uncomfortable with our assigned gender at birth anyway! not even some cis men want to “act” or “look” cis so why the fuck do we need to. fuck that noise.
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  10. babylonsabby said: @prince-dav1d You could actually have a point. But I’m with ya. This shit fucking sucks. You’d think as a community, we wouldn’t be reduced to something that ultimately boils down to, “I’m more oppressed than you,” and yet, here we are. “You’re not trans because you don’t fit the legal definition.” What are these people gonna do, just wallow in their own misery? I’m not here for definitions, I’m here to put a very broad thing into perspective.
  11. babylonsabby reblogged this from still-a-thot and added:
    Let’s just throw all that in the shitter then and say yes, I fuckin’ have dysphoria. Ya happy, now? Still doesn’t change...
  12. still-a-thot reblogged this from babylonsabby and added:
    …most of those points don’t even relate to my question. dysphoria is a biological thing. if you could determine if an...
  13. m1re1o said: technically don’t all trans people have a form of dysphoria? even if you dont have body dysphoria, you still have gender dysphoria bc your assigned gender at birth doesnt match your identity and causes you some level of discomfort. there’s still a disconnect. idk. I’m sick of truscum pitting trans ppl against each other when, to me, we all seem to still share gender dysphoria (on different scales). open to friendly discussion.
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