vaspider:

ayo-tofu:

vaspider:

vaspider:

I have no intention of tagging my identity or referring to it as ‘the q slur’ or tagging posts where I use my identity term as such. If my identity term is not good for you, that’s fine. You don’t have to follow me. You can, in fact, even block me.

But I’m not going to stop calling myself queer, or referring to the queer community - that is, the community of people who identify as queer, which doesn’t include you if you don’t identify as queer, so get the fuck over yourself, I don’t ask people to stop talking about ‘the gay community’ just because I’m not gay - and if that’s a problem for you, then there’s a simple solution:

Tumblr Savior the word queer. No posts including the word queer will show up on your dash. None! In the body of the post or in the tags. 

See how easy that is? It doesn’t make me refer to my identity as a slur, and you don’t have to see it. Or, if you need to, don’t follow me, or block me. In fact, if you have a problem with my identity, please block me. I’d rather not accidentally reblog something from someone who thinks my identity is something I should hide.

Look, here you go:

Tumblr Savior for Chrome

Tumblr Savior for Opera 

Tumblr Savior for Firefox

http://bjornstar.com/tumblr-savior

Install Tumblr Savior. Add ‘queer’ to your blacklisted words. And leave the rest of us alone about our identity words. For fuck’s sake.

Xkit also has blacklist :)

I didn’t know that! That’s great.

Here’s the thing I need to make perfectly clear: if you don’t want to be called queer, I’m not gonna call you queer. I am, however, not going to call my identity a slur at your request. I don’t make people tag things ‘g slur’ even though my abuse and trauma had much more to do with the word ‘gay.’

There are a couple of reasons for that.

One: gay is a legitimate identity. (So is queer. Sorry, I’m here, I’m queer, get used to it.) I’m not going to shame someone for their identity, even if the word was used by a third party against me.

Two: asking someone to re-slur their identity degrades their reclaiming work every time it’s insisted that this is a slur and must be a slur. It reinforces that this identity is bad even among the people who should treat your identity with respect.

Three: if I have a problem with the word ‘gay,’ or for that matter, the word ‘cupcake’ or, let’s say, ‘dove,’ I can tell Tumblr Savior or Xkit to blacklist every instance of that word. There is absolutely no NEED for someone to tag a post ‘cupcake content’ unless they describe cupcakes without using the word, or describe doves without using the word. Any filtering software will pick up the word *in text or tags*.

So really, the only real reason to insist “tag your identity as a slur” is to control the narrative over that word, and to force people, over and over, to call their identities an essentially bad thing. To insist “you need to call this a slur, because I say so, or you’re an asshole,” when tagging does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to keep you from having to see the word, because *blacklisting the word itself accomplishes the same thing and is much more effective,* is nothing but a power play. A means of controlling the conversation and the narrative about the word. A means of making sure the word is continually thought of primarily as a slur, even by the people whose identities are primarily linked to that word and that concept.

And you know what? Fuck that. You can feel free to say I’m trying to shame you or whatever, but anyone who’s trying to tell me that I should tag my identity as a slur *when doing so serves no purpose in helping anyone to avoid seeing posts with the word in it* should be ashamed of that kind of manipulative behavior.

That’s my last word on the matter: blacklist the word queer if it bothers you, block me if my identity is a problem, and stop trying to shame us queers for not being ashamed of our identity.

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