There is almost no difference between exercising authority over someone and abusing them.
This is a good point and afaik is the reason some anarchists say “unjustified authority”.
Though that opens a new discussion about what justifies authority.
Here’s the thing, I doubt many people want little kids getting hit by cars in the street, but grabbing a kid, and screaming at it for “doing something dangerous”, is different from stopping the kid, and explaining to them or reminding them about traffic is a way of helping them without letting your feelings (your fear for their safety, frustration at them “not listening”) turn your actions into terrorizing the kid. which who knows? could make them associate the real danger of the situation being how the Authority reacted, rather than the memory being applied to building their knowledge of how to keep safe around traffic. Does this change if “it’s YOUR kid”? Seems like a lot of the Common Sense responses to this are falling back down to the assumptions that some kind of natural relationship leads to the phenomenon of Authority. how many young children have pulled their distracted parent back from oncoming traffic? I don’t know, maybe not zero