aut-of-space:

Parents make mistakes because they are human. Acknowledging this doesn’t mean someone disrespects their own or anyone’s parents or that they don’t love their parents.

Criticism isn’t the opposite of love, it needs to be a part of it. Being able to criticize how your parents behave is nothing but your parents acknowledging your feelings and thoughts as worth considering instead of seeing them as a threat to their authority.

Damn. If someone weren’t allowed to criticize their partner, most people would flip and tell said person to break up. And of course, parents aren’t exactly the same as lovers, but please explain how it’s healthy that we as a society decided that it’s okay for parents to criticize their children all they like while children aren’t allowed to say a word?

Hell, because of this toxic culture around criticizing parents, I met so many people who were so fucking offended by the simple statement “nobody has the perfect parents” because it’s a threat to them. They see their love and adoration towards their parents as threatened instead of seeing that this is not what criticizing parents is about.

Being able to acknowledge your own parents mistakes is an act of self-respect and love.
It means to also acknowledge that the negative feelings your parents caused you have a right to exist which doesn’t have the consequence of “not loving your parents anymore”. Negative feelings are a natural part of any relationship and they exist anyway, whether you acknowledge them or not.

It means that you know that nobody’s perfect and that nobody has to be in order to be loved by others. Making mistakes is just a natural part of being human and acknowledging those mistakes isn’t something bad, just as having mistakes isn’t.

And honestly… Parents who think it’s okay to flip when their children criticize them are implying that their position above their children is more important to them than accepting their perspective as valid and worth listening to. They are actually admitting that their own feelings are more important to them (which is fucking easy considering that no one would even stop them because nobody considers this side of the coin) than their child’s.

TL;DR:
Our society condemning criticism by children directed at their parents is one of the mayor reasons for emotional abuse and we need to stop the toxic believe that criticising someone equals disrespect and that disrespect equals dislike and thus criticising your own parents makes you “The Worst™”.

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