it’s really insidious how people who have a history of being abusive will use social media as a whole to try and change the public perception of them and use that to lure more people in. like you abusing someone or multiple people and the coming on twitter and tumblr on this “cut toxic people out 2017❤️💖🍒” shit is a really demonic and self victimizing.
I wasn’t really gonna address this but i changed my mind so now i am. Abusive people don’t change. Especially people who are serial abusers. They do not change their behavior they just learn new ways to navigate whatever environment they are in to hide their true self. If you legitimately think that someone who has abused another consistently will up and change after a few therapy sessions or just over time youre wrong. All these people do is change form, not their essence. And for you to sit up here and act like IM in the wrong for talking about someone who has abused multiple people in a row and not giving them the benefit of the doubt when they have been known to manipulate exactly that, manipulate peoples trust and their empathy, is disgusting and i hope you choke.
In the end abusers do what they do because it is beneficial to them and they DON’T CARE about the wellbeing of the victim beyond keeping them around to be benefitted off of.
Lundy Bancroft, a psychologist who was a pioneer on the modern theories of abuse and whose job it is to help these people change says himself that very few ever actually do and a lot of those end up reoffending.
Short of a really big realization or a change into an environment that will not allow their bad behaviors there’s not much that will change their behavior.
And even if they did apologize, they actually have to demonstrate that they are a changed person over the course of years and years to the end of their life. And even then they cannot expect their “former” victim to ever forgive or forget, EVER.
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