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This post has been cross-posted to WordPress here. It was written for the March 2015 Carnival of Aces on Gender norms and asexuality.

This is more of a gender-y post than my usual posts here, but I feel like it’s relevant not only because it is a lucky interaction of my gender and sexual/romantic orientations but also because the ace community is the only community I am involved in that actually speaks about the attraction model in a meta way. 

Hold on tight because I got rambly (again). I’ve tried to shorten my sentences and paragraphs (and have possibly made my point less clear in doing so), but if the post is still inaccessible, or has lost all meaning, please throw me a message and I’ll try and edit it.

Before I came to university, I was already struggling with the concept of attraction – how we name it, why we name it, whether attraction is the important part of a relationship or identity – but coming to uni and getting a boyfriend have made that concept all the more difficult to grasp. All three main issues I have with the attraction model have become more relevant, but for this post I’ll just talk about the first one: how do we name our attraction?

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