there’s nothing inherently wrong with monogamy

batlesbo:

polyamory-resources:

prettyfnpoly:

but I feel like we don’t talk often enough about the negative impacts the culture that surrounds monogamous relationships can have on people of all relationship styles/orientations. 

monogamy culture will have you believe that it’s normal to be jealous and territorial over your partner and their interactions with other people - especially interactions with people that they could eventually develop a romantic/sexual interest in. 

monogamy culture will tell you that you are the only person your partner should ever show romantic/sexual interest in, and if your partner makes the mistake of developing feelings/attraction toward another person, it’s because you are not enough. 

monogamy culture will tell you that certain sacrifices must be made in order to build a life with another person, and if you aren’t keen to make those sacrifices for your partner, you are selfish and not ready for “real” commitment.

monogamy culture will tell you that relationships are only valuable if they are “going somewhere,” somewhere usually meaning lifelong commitment in the form of marriage or domestic partnership. if you aren’t ready to shack up, propose, have kids with, or make other commitments to someone whom you’ve been dating for an extended period of time, you are again considered selfish and not ready for a “real” relationship.

monogamy culture will tell you that one partner should satisfy most of your needs. the rest can be dealt with via compromise on your end. when you can no longer deal with having certain needs go unsatisfied, your only option is to end the current relationship and (usually) pursue someone else.

monogamy culture will tell you that there are certain things you must rely on your significant other for. they should be the most intimate relationship you have, the person you gain validation from, the person from whom you ask advice first, the ultra absolute most special person you’ve ever had in your life. if anyone else compares in the slightest, they are a threat to the relationship.


obviously not all monogamous couples exhibit these characteristics, because monogamy itself is not the problem. the problem is this weird, jealous, insecure, culture surrounding monogamy that is constantly perpetuated by the media and so much of society. 

I thought this was interesting to view it from the culture side of things.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^THIS THIS THIS THIS

2 years ago / 32880 
via: loveprints
  1. amanda-enigma reblogged this from paronomaniac
  2. runnimiddre1984 reblogged this from spirate744
  3. june-meatcleaver reblogged this from dominantlife
  4. scribblesonmyskin reblogged this from mayhawk561
  5. genesisreborne6 reblogged this from heartsmith101
  6. heartsmith101 reblogged this from dominantlife
  7. thenaughtykitty86 reblogged this from dominantlife
  8. mollymcb reblogged this from mayhawk561
  9. endquire reblogged this from dominantlife
  10. silverstarsbluevelvet reblogged this from subspace-blog
  11. mthephage reblogged this from dominantlife
  12. littlebratofrr reblogged this from subspace-blog
  13. poohbear91302 reblogged this from subspace-blog
  14. daddyslilnastybitch reblogged this from dominantlife
  15. giggly-evil-puppy reblogged this from dominantlife
  16. white-wolf-shining reblogged this from dominantlife
  17. subspace-blog reblogged this from dominantlife
(c)